Seekers and Accepters

Seekers

Some people seek things.

Adventure. Opportunity. More.

This leads them down amazing paths and dangerous ones. To highs and lows.

Seekers demand answers. They expect happiness. They want bigger and better.

Usually, they get it.

It may take a while, but those who consistently seek tend to find what they look for.

But it’s rarely enough. Because seeking is addictive.

Seekers fall in love with the hunt and lose sight of the prize.

The urge to seek that propelled them forward ultimately prevents them from enjoying it once they get there.

They see no finish line – only new things to pursue, new twists to take, and new challenges to overcome.

Accepters

Other people seek nothing.

They accept their fate. They accept their role. They settle.

They don’t see what’s possible – only what’s impossible.

They’d rather be safe so they wait. Sit. Let things pass them by.

They see others get what they want and question why it wasn’t them. They are rarely happy.

But they are often content.

They appreciate things. They don’t long. Don’t feel pressure.

They neither wallow in the past nor dream about the future.

They don’t wonder. They don’t worry.

They are OK.

The Challenge

We all need to be both Seekers and Accepters at different times in our lives.

The challenge is figuring out when to be which.

That’s no easy task. But the better you get at it, the better your life will be.

Good luck.

Change Is Easier Than The Alternative

Change isn’t that hard.

You think it is so you let your fears negatively impact your life, work, and art.

But it’s harder to avoid change than to embrace it.

You forget change is your natural state – you grow, evolve, learn, and adapt every day. While your core values and the core people in your life may stay relatively constant, the world they inhabit is in constant motion.

The same is true for business. Products, economics, customer needs, and the value provided is always in flux.

No matter who you are or what you do, the world constantly reshuffles the deck around you.

That’s life.

Despite all the signs that change is an basic part of our daily lives, we continue to tell ourselves change is hard.

But we rarely recognize that not changing is harder.

Digging in your heels, burying your head in the sand, and ignoring the necessity of change leads you down a path that’s ultimately more difficult than the change needed to avoid it.

Not changing stunts your growth as a person and dooms your business.

So the next time you think about how hard it is to change something in your life, it’s worth considering how hard it will be to not change that thing.

It might influence your decision.

We’ve Screwed Up Sharing

Sharing is a generous act. But social media has made it selfish.

As kids, we learned sharing was the act of giving something we had of value to others who would benefit from it. We shared to make others happy, help them, and make their life better.

Sharing was a virtue.

Now think about what sharing looks like on social media today.

We share for lots of reasons, but most have nothing to do with generosity.

We share to get attention, to get validation, to showcase our opinions, to make others jealous, to criticize, and of course we share to get “Likes.”

More often than not, our sharing is driven by our needs as opposed to the needs of the people we share with.

We’ve made sharing a selfish act.

Our social feeds are littered with things designed to fulfill the needs of the poster as opposed to the postee.

So, what can we do about it?

Not much. The genie is out of the bottle.

But here’s a small thing we can do.

We can use social media in a more generous way. Share things that provide value to those who follow us. Offer to help them. Ask them what they need.

There’s nothing wrong with sharing photos of your lunch or ranting about whatever random thing pissed you off today. That’s part of what makes the Internet the Internet.

And I LOVE the Internet.

But maybe, every once in a while, we can share something people actually value as well?

Let’s make sharing valuable again.

And as a first step, please only share this post with people you think will genuinely value it. Thanks.